Welcome to DCF!
It could be that in becoming more familiar with the parish activities you and your wife may be interested in some of them......some can be together, and some separate for men and women.
I moved to Florida almost twenty-six years ago, from Long Island, New York, and in both parishes have found there is plenty of fellowship available.
As far as Bible Studies and my own parish is weak on that, and so I attend some excellent ones in another parish about 20 minutes away, and also at the Cathedral here. Every parish has its weak points and its strong points, and so we roamin' Catholics get around and look for the good things.
Sorry to hear about your wife's bad experience with RCIA. We are still in a crisis that is mending with the help of the Lord, and some RCIA programs have very good leaders who listen to their holy priests, and others need lots of work and prayers for priests and laymen.