The Priest Responds
After you have made your confession, the priest may do any number of things. He may go straight to the "Advice and Penance" (below). Given the confession stated above, a brief talk may ensue, like this:
Are you married?
Are you unable to perform the marriage act?
Well... my wife and I got into an argument...
I see. So would you also like to confess to getting angry?
Yes, father. I was angry with my wife on two occasions
Did you act upon this anger in any other ways? Did you strike your wife?
What is the 9th commandment?
"Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's wife"
In what way did you break this commandment?
There is a woman I work with who dressed very immodestly one day, and it caused me to have feelings of lust.
Did you act on these feelings?
That sounds an awful lot like the priest insinuating you did something you didn't (causing you to confess something you didn't do), not to mention it can be inappropriate. Is the above scenario common, or is it only listed for an example? The above scenario seems to fit into all the classic anti-Catholic stereotypes about priests: *you* not the priest, should have control of what you're confessing - that's why (at least how I understand it) the priest can then decide whether or not to grant absolution. Isn't the priest deciding whether or not to absolve you of your sins part of the sacrament? I have only been to confession once since returning to the church, but I don't recall the priest ever being nosy, for lack of a better word.
Edited to add: I have to take anti-anxiety and anti-depressants. A major side effect of these types of medication is diminished libido. Diminished libido means there are some sins I probably won't be doing anytime soon - some sins I don't *want* to do. Just wanted to clarify that for any priests on the message board - if you get a male confessor who isn't confessing something, there's often a valid reason for the omission.